UnfillteredMe
Whenever we think about a girl moving to different cities for the purpose of chasing their dreams, The image formed in our minds are confident, career oriented, professional, having a coffee in a working space, making the tasks possible and getting the things done. This is the filter we all are putting in our camera’s, clicking the picture and posting the unknown truth to the world. But when we talk about the hidden version behind that brave face, there is some other story cooking that has never been shown or told to anyone. And today, with Unflitered Me I will share that version.
When we talk about a hardwork, not every hardwork looks like the good results but also the tears which are quiet and the struggles of missing the family, battle of being lonely, missing your mom’s care, hiding the fears so that every one thinks of you to be independent and brave.
This blog is for every girl who has stepped out of their homes for the reasons to build their career and earn for their family and make their own identity.
Real Dreams Always takes up the Cost of loosing
When the girls are getting older, they are usually taught to make their dreams but not too much big. The girl can be ambitious but within the limits, they can study and have to earn good marks but cannot become independent, they can earn well but not more then their husbands, they are never allowed to do anything making others uncomfortable. So whenever a girl make a decision for herself to keep her step out, hugging her parents, moving to a city of strangers for the stake of her career then it is not said to be bold but also something very big.
But something very big always leads towards the questions and unseen cost. The cost no one actually talks about.
The starting days when you are out feels like the best days of your life, no one is here to stop you, you are living at your own terms, living your best life, freedom you always dreamt off. No one is there to look upon you and scold about eating, no one is asking you that you are coming so late, no one is stopping you, you are living at your own cost. But soon that silence of not asking by anyone starts making you feel so alone. You are coming back after work and mom is not their to ask for a fresh juice and chapati. You are falling sick and no body is their to care. Whenever you get a recognition by your boss, father is not their to hug you. When someone has not behaved with you properly, your brother is not there to make you feel comfortable.
The only thing can be done by you is to make a video call, hiding that struggling behind and talking to your family and making them feel that you are fine here. But from inside you are missing the birthdays, weddings, familly gatherings, chit-chat with cousins. And the time comes where your silence become louder and the freedom become a struggle.
The Real Phase of Homesickess but not our weekness
Homesickness is not only about missing your father’s voice or mother food or your brothers unnecessary arguments but it is usually the pain of not being a part of that environment. It is a feeling of lonliness at your pg when you are roaming around and wanting someone to talk and make you feel like home.
For many of the girls, the struggles are known to be more extensive because we are meant and expected to be strong. From always we are taught to make every adjustments and try to adapt with the environment, showing only smiles and hiding all the tears inside. So we put the masks on, taking up the selfies, giving a good smile saying we are fine but inside we are continuously fighting with our emptiness, fear and the most of all above that is our self doubt.
But the only thing I will say to all girls reading this, Staying away from home is not making you weak, but it is making you a real human being.
The Pressure: Make the best out of it
A girl who is living away from the home always has to face the unseen pressure of doing something that will make her parents proud. She is always under a bridge of proving something and has to make best of all. She is not allowed to give a reason of not able to handle the things or coming back. She cannot give her relatives a chance of saying that we told you earlier, make her marry.
You are getting agree to all the things that you don’t want to do, you are working overtime. You are trying to always pretend that you are Ok and fine. At your tough times, you are becoming your own chair leader, your own motivator, your own nurse, your own plumber of getting the things fixed and moreover your own mother and emotional support system.
And this hard journey of yours has made you a Confident and Happy Survivor in this entire world. You have made your self grown and become more stronger. And the confidence and strength that you are seeing in yourself if not the result of the motivations and all the happiness but the breakdowns and negative things happened with you.
You have earned more off Power and proved yourself that Every Girl can do it, they are meant to do it.
Girls keep on going
After all the struggle and hard time we have gone, we have never meant to stop. We are stepping, falling, learning and growing.
We are trying to find out the joy and happiness in a small things, a full home cooked meal by ourselves, a video call from your mother, a message of the salary credit and partying with your friends. We are decorating our pg rooms with a fairy tale lights and a pictures of our roomates and family, learned to vibe on my own space. Building the connection with other girls fighting the same battle in their own way and becoming their support system. We are creating our own small families away from our home, who are not judging us but listening and understanding us.
We are not stopping because it is becoming easy, but for our vision. The dream we all have seen to live in our own terms and prove everyone that we can do everything alone.
Yes My Girls: You are Brave
Always remember my girls, You all are brave.
You are brave because you have sacrificed your comfort.
You are brave because you are struggling to bring you up.
You are brave because you are fighting alone.
Moreover, You are brave because after all the struggles you are still smiling and spreading the happiness all around.
In this world of fakeness and filters, it is always said to be Ok to show your scars. It is fine to tell that you are struggling. It is okay to showcase all the hurdles you have crossed upon coming at your achievement.
Here, I have share the Unfiltered version of all of us, the verion that is full of struggles, fear, tiredness and emotional has also to be seen by everyone.